FOUR REASON WE FAIL TO MAKE DISCIPLES AND HOW WE CAN CHANGE THAT
By Rob Wiltshire
Leadership is influence.
In case you weren’t aware influence means; the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behaviour of someone.
I love this about leadership. As leaders we get to help grow peoples character, that outworks in seeing their behaviour change.
Growing leaders in the church is often termed another way…making disciples. This is the command Jesus gave to his 12 disciples right before his ascension into to heaven, and it’s the same command he has given us today.
Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.
But if you are anything like me, I bet you often find yourself scratching your head as to how to make disciples out of people.
How do I grow the people in my kid’s team?
How do I grow the people in music?
How do I build the online marketing team?
How do I make disciples in insert blank area?
Phil Pringle in his book "YOU THE LEADER" says; another term for discipleship is "delegation."
The reality is, you cannot disciple people, without delegating responsibility to them.
So with delegation and discipleship in mind…
FOUR REASON WE FAIL MAKE DISCIPLES
1) They can’t do it as good as I can
You know what, so often this is true. People can’t do it as well as you. But that is because you have had more practice doing it.
People will never be able to do it as well as you, if you don’t give them the opportunity to learn how to do it. And yes, learning requires allowing a mess to take place —scary I know.
Think of it this way. You are only in the position you are in because someone gave you a go. Sure you may have had skill and talent to a degree, but somewhere along the line someone gave you opportunity to have a go, mess it up, clean it up, and learn.
No matter what it is, we only get better with practice.
Today they can’t do it as good as you, but what about a year from now when you have allowed them the opportunity to practice?
2) They might do it better and make me look bad
The first point is only one side of the coin, as the opposite is also true. So many people don’t delegate responsibility because they fear they will be put out of a job.
This is insecurity speaking.
Insecure leaders don’t create leaders, they destroy them. Insecure leaders destroy potential leaders by not giving them opportunity to outwork their talents.
Generally, what happens here is anyone with natural gifting’s and talents will all overtime leave and go somewhere that values what they have to offer.
All of us as leaders have insecurity. But we need to insure that we recognize and deal with insecurity when it arises, or it will cripple both us and the area we lead.
3) I just enjoy it too much to give it up
I’m glad you enjoy it that much. But think of how much you could accomplish if there were two of you, or three of you, or…...
On the flip side. Today you enjoy it and it’s light and easy, however tomorrow when the workload increases, and there are crisis’s happening in your own person life, it will become a burden.
So, while today you enjoy it, tomorrow perhaps not. Often the difference between not liking it for a season or a lifetime, is directly linked to the support and help you have during those times.
What are you doing today that in 10 years from now, enables you to still enjoy it too much?
4) It’s too important to trust someone else to do it.
This is so very similar to the first point. The job, role, task, is too important to be mucked up. And you know what, I agree.
There a plenty of things that are far too important to be mucked up, and trusting someone else to do it for us, is at times impossible.
But this is a shortsighted view.
What happens if tomorrow you are in a car accident and can’t do it for a season? Or there is a family emergency? What happens to that extremely impossible task, when life happens to you?
If it’s so important, it’s too important not to be delegated. If delegation begins today, someone will be practiced up to carry it on when life happens to you tomorrow.